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Crying for children can bring even the most calm and balanced mother to a nervous breakdown. Pampers are dry and the tummy is soft and not swollen? A newborn has recently had dinner, but too early for teeth? Does the baby have a normal temperature, no rashes and other strange symptoms? There are no reasons for crying, but the baby is screaming and calling? How to calm a child’s tantrum and not go crazy?
0 to 3 months
Why do the little weeks babies cry? Perhaps they are just scared or upset. Parents who are tired of constant lack of sleep and long motion sickness are advised to try the methodology of American doctor Harvey Karp.
First, the restless baby is wrapped in a diaper or sheet. Hands are tied to the torso. The tissue should slightly compress the body of the newborn. Tight swaddling is associated with the baby with the mother’s womb, where it was crowded, but calm and warm. The light in the room is dimmed to recreate a cozy atmosphere, and the baby is laid next to it.
If the diaper is not enough, the wrapped baby is turned on its side. The forearm is placed under the head, the tummy is wrapped around the palm of your hand. The baby should roll forward a bit. The child, who was laid on the barrel, quickly calms down, because in this position he was sleeping in his mother’s womb. And the palm, with which the parent supports the newborn, slightly presses on the intestines, eliminating colic and discomfort.
If the baby continues to whimper quietly, it needs to be rocked. Mom or dad presses a tiny back to his torso, supporting the head with his palm. The child lies on its side, resting on the forearm, and the second hand supports it from below, so that the crumbs do not accidentally slip out of their arms.
Standing still or slowly walking around the room, you need to swing the newborn to the sides, as if in a cradle. The amplitude is small, the movements are smooth and careful. The wiggles remind the baby the shaking that he felt in his mother’s stomach when the pregnant woman walked or simply tossed and turned in bed.
The fetus that lives in the uterus constantly hears how the food is digested in the intestines of the woman. Muffled sounds that resemble white noise reach the baby in the womb. Even capricious and restless babies fall asleep when mom begins to rock them and hiss. First, she makes a loud “Shhh” to shout down a crying newborn. When the baby calms down, the voice becomes quieter.
The baby is silent, but is not going to sleep yet? Children up to 3–6 months of age develop a strong sucking reflex. To prevent repeated hysteria, the calmed baby is offered a breast or a dummy. While the newborn’s mouth is busy, he is silent, and mom can take a break from screaming.
The technique works if the crumbs are no more than 3-4 months old. Sometimes swaddling and motion sickness are enough. If the baby is not in the mood, it is recommended to use all five tricks at the same time.
A few reasons and tricks
Newly made parents do not know how to read the thoughts of a little man, so they miss some details. The baby’s hysteria may begin due to a crease on the sheet or a sliding blanket, too hard a mattress or imperceptible irritation on the skin.
A screaming baby is advised to get out of the crib and undress. Check the diaper, remove the diaper and allow the child to lie down for 10-15 minutes without a diaper.
Carefully inspect the skin between the legs and buttocks, as well as the armpits and back. If mom found redness, you need to treat the area with chamomile broth or boiled water, and then apply a powder or light baby cream with vitamins.Irritation is accompanied by itching and burning, due to which the baby cannot sleep. Children's cosmetics will relieve unpleasant symptoms and soothe the baby.
Sometimes a child cries from hunger. He holds out his hands to mom, screams demandingly and persistently. Breasts grow rapidly, and their appetite rises, so do not be surprised if 30-40 minutes after a hearty dinner, the baby again asks his mother for breasts. And having received the desired and satisfying hunger, the child will calm down and fall asleep.
Young children have poor thermoregulation, so they wake up in the middle of the night from cold or heat and begin to resent. If the air temperature rises, and the back and nose of the baby are hot, you need to remove his pants or replace the blanket with a sheet. Newborns with a cool nose bridge and tummy are dressed up in overalls with long sleeves or covered with a plaid.
4 to 10-12 months
Children, like adults, see nightmares. Did the baby have a tantrum in the middle of the night? Perhaps he dreamed that his mother ran out of milk, or his parents left and left him alone. A screaming child needs to be picked up, shaken and reassured. Sing a song to him, tell a story. Mom’s voice distracts the baby from poor visions and lulls him to sleep.
Children 3-4 months old like to sleep and sit in a sling. The baby clings to the body of the parent, listens to her heartbeat. In an elastic cocoon it is cramped and warm, comfortable and safe. In the afternoon, mothers put on a sling, put a child in it and go for a walk on the street. Some kids like the noise of cars and busy streets. These sounds stop the tantrum and lull the baby.
What to do with a crying child, if the clock is two nights, and there is no strength to rock it? Turn on the TV or computer. Switch to a channel that broadcasts cartoons or commercials. The main thing is that the picture is bright and juicy, and the characters are constantly moving. The baby's attention will switch to the screen, and he will be silent. Yes, it’s bad to teach a baby to TV, but mother’s health is more important.
You can distract the child with a bright bag or wrapping paper. Hang it over the crib and rustle, let the baby touch and mash it.
Calm the baby dancing. Mom picks him up and waltzes around the room, humming softly. Swings up and down and to the side, slowly twists and gently throws into the air. Baby's attention switches to strange movements. He is having fun, and the child forgets why he cried. As soon as the baby becomes silent, he is given a pacifier or a bottle with a mixture to prevent repeated hysteria.
Children during tantrums open their mouths wide and gasp. It enters the stomach and intestines, causing colic. If the baby screams for more than 5 minutes and cannot stop, he is lifted with a “column” and helps to burp.
Does a child often cry for no objective reason? Perhaps he lacks attention. Yes, the exhausted mother wants to fall on the sofa and lie in silence for at least 30-40 minutes, but the baby needs affection and care.
With a screaming baby you can lie on the bed and talk. Read a story or come up with your own, tell him a poem or just speculate about life. Babies do not understand what mom is talking about, but her voice works better than any sedative pills.
2 years to 3-4
Parents breathe a sigh of relief when a child goes colicky and all his teeth erupt, but you can not relax. Two-year-old children throw tantrums because:
- do not want to eat or get hungry;
- mother did not give candy;
- did not like the jumpsuit;
- they are tired but cannot fall asleep;
- They don’t want to go outside or return home.
A kid who is in a bad mood will find a thousand reasons to arrange a tantrum. My mother twitches the left eye, and the hands themselves reach for the fifth point of the crybaby, but you need to stay calm. How to stop sobbing and screaming?
Let's cry later
The parent kneels down, looks the child in the eye and offers to calm down, because the sun will soon sit down, and if you do not hurry, it will become dark.And at night the children sleep, no one rides on a swing or carousel. After all, you can cry in the evening, if you really want to. Children usually agree and calm down, but an adult must fulfill his promise and go with the baby to the street.
Sleeping dad
Does the child scream loudly and choke with tears? Mom hugs him on the shoulders and says that the baby has the right to cry, but you need to do it quietly, because in the next room dad sleeps. He is very tired or sick, so you can’t wake a parent. Children try not to upset the adult and stop screaming, and then completely calm down.
Fast reaction
- see what the kitty does;
- go count the leaves on the trees;
- include your favorite cartoons;
- check who was rustling in the closet.
Speak quickly and sharply, without letting the baby cry. Children's attention will switch to more interesting things, and mom will not have to listen to offended cries.
Bad item
Did the kid hit the table or hit the sofa? The item that hurt the baby needs to be punished. Slap or knock with a stick, and then come to my mother so that she kisses the injured finger or pen, and that's all.
Reasons for concern
Is the baby crying while feeding? Perhaps the newborn inflamed the mucous membranes of the throat or mouth, the nose or ears hurt. Does the baby scream when he pisses? It is advised to check the kidneys and ureter, to exclude inflammation and pyelonephritis. Is the baby crying during bowel movements? Parents go to the pediatrician and examine the rectum for cracks, otherwise the child develops a fear of bowel movements, and there is a psychological constipation.
Children cry because they are tired or slept in the afternoon, and at night they want to communicate with their parents. Crying due to unfamiliar surroundings or strangers. Parents do not always manage to understand why the baby is indignant, and the two-year-old suddenly fell to the floor and threw a tantrum. The main thing is never to leave a screaming child alone with pain and resentment. It is better to hug him, to press and protect him from everything in the world.
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